I’m Hayley, (she/her)

I’m a neurodivergent (ADHD) Mum, Somatic Healing Practitioner, Menstruality Mentor, living the sober life on the coast in Thanet, Kent.

You’ll often find me dancing the 5 rhythms (mostly in the kitchen these days), at a protest, or having slow family days on the beach.

Through my own journey of healing, I came to realise that my explorations aren’t just about me. But about supporting others to reconnect with their bodies and reclaim their wisdom too. This work is about creating alternatives to the cycles of shame, disconnection, and oppression that so many face, and creating spaces where we can heal, together.

Hayley as a child on the beach and teenager on the toilet around time she experienced first signs of PMDD

My Story…….

As a child I was a super sensitive ‘good girl’. By menarche, my first period, I began to rebel. I experienced an overwhelming surge of energy & emotion, with no idea how to channel it. I internalised this as ‘there’s something wrong with me’. But that which gets suppressed will inevitably find other ways to be expressed.

It’s understandable that I’d seek belonging in the only ways I knew at the time, I spent two decades turning to alcohol, and gave years of my energy to diet culture. I learned to mask who I really was to fit in, unaware of my own unique gifts and rejecting my sensitivities. As cringey as it sounds, at some point I began on a cyclical path, back home to myself…..

My inner inquiry started with spiritual practices in my twenties, and in my early thirties I began my recovery from alcohol dependence, soon falling pregnant with our little one. Since my teens I’d always struggled in the pre-menstrual phase of my cycle which was later recognised as PMDD and when my bleed returned 5 months postpartum, it took me into my deepest initiation yet.

I found Menstrual Cycle Awareness, was held by community, anchored into my spiritual practice and somatic exploration. I realised along the way that I don’t need fixing, that my body’s response has been appropriate and understandable all along.

I discovered that my nervous system was doing exactly what it was meant to, protecting me from perceived threats. I started to see that I’m not a failure, but that the systems we live within are intentionally built to fail us. The less I fought against myself, the more fight I found for humanity.

My body’s wisdom was calling out to me, urging me to bring all the things that’d been pushed into the shadows into the light, to be seen, heard and metabolised. This didn’t happen in one big cathartic moment, but as an ongoing remembering, unfolding little by little, at my body’s pace.

I don’t want to frame this as a neat ‘before-and-after’ success story, it isn’t linear like that. But I do know first hand how somatics & cyclical living can create more aliveness, capacity and ease in who we are;

Not as a ‘perfect’ future version of ourselves, but in our full humanity, exactly as we are.

I initially trained in Somatics and Menstrual Cycle Awareness to support folks on their personal healing paths, and that’s still at the heart of what I do. But my intention has expanded far beyond that.

I truly believe that personal and collective healing are deeply entwined. Healing isn’t just an individual journey, it ripples outward, creating shifts in our families, communities, and the world.

Equally, the work we do to dismantle oppressive systems and co-create something better, is essential to building a world that supports healing for ALL.

Trees in the woods, nature as a guide to our healing.

At the heart of my work…

My own healing path continues to be a unique weave of embodied menstrual cycle awareness, trauma healing, community care, un-shaming, decolonising & spiritual practice.

I deeply respect that you will have your own unique weave, which we can explore together.

Healing not fixing

By healing, I mean tending to your body memories from past experiences, trauma and conditioning. I mean reclaiming ALL parts of you. Not fixing, but a remembering of your innate wisdom.

A remembering

I see this work as a deep in-your-bones remembering, that you too are nature, that you belong, that you are a cyclical being with your own unique gifts to offer to these times.

I see you on this brave journey, lovely one, and you do not need to take it alone.